I often feel angry about the destruction I see in the world around me and hear about in the media. How do I manage my anger so that I don’t add more of it to the mixture?
It helps me to remember that the tree of anger often grows out of a root of pain and/or fear. In order to discover the fear or pain, I slow down. Stop. Quietly listen to my inner conversation–the unspoken thoughts.
It most helpful, when I ask Jesus to be with me in this. I have a little talk with him. He listens. Then, as he gently addresses the roots of fear and/or pain in my heart, my anger melts into tears of relief. I feel loved. I can think more clearly. I gain self-control.
Gentleness is more powerful than anger because it’s an expression of love. Love does not threaten. It listens. When I’m threatened, I feel devalued and afraid. When I’m listened to, I feel valued and safe. Safe enough to talk about my anger, fear, and pain.
The “tanker full of anger” I describe in my poem might be someone you know. Maybe you. If so, find or be a person who can listen with love and speak with gentleness.
I’m a tanker full of anger. Don’t get in front of me. My throttle’s fully open; If I were you, I’d flee. I’m a tanker full of anger, Roaring down life’s highway; My brakes are not working. I think you better pray. I’m a tanker full of anger. It’s a very heavy load. If I don’t dump some of it, I’m afraid I’ll explode I’m a tanker full of anger. Unlit dynamite, I was created over time By things that were not right: Prejudice and pain, Injustice and neglect, Losses that I suffered, Failures to protect, Beliefs and attitudes That pushed me away, I’m a tanker full of anger. I wish that you would stay— I wish you would help me Unload successfully, Not injure self or others, Handle grief, effectively. 10/8/2020 Jane Ault